Posted by Rigby on September 5, 2003, at 12:58:26
Hi There,
Do any of you guys have your therapist say stuff like this, "I feel like you're fighting with me--like you came in here ready to pick a fight." Not only does she do this but she does it with feeling, like she gets upset about it. Is this normal?
My therapist has done this a *number* of times and it seems kinda funky. She acts a bit hurt, like it's personal. I guess she picks up on whether or not I'm in a more or less impatient or sarcastic mood but I have had to say "Well, how about we focus on the content for a second."
Also, it seems like shouldn't she let me be annoyed if I am? It's a funny reaction--if I'm ticked off wouldn't you think she'd bring that up to me vs. being upset I'm ticked off or impatient?
Ugh. I keep going back to thinking she and I have a "personal" thing (mostly good) which means she's "involved" which is good but I sorta kinda wonder too. She even caught herself last night when she gave me grief for being annoyed.
Here's another thing: I'm avoiding a question by rubbing my legs (was wearing shorts as usual) and remarked I needed to shave. She says, "I didn't think lesbians shaved." Huh? First off, HELLO? I mean what a funky comment. Second, she spent about 10 years in a relationship with women (or a woman)--she acts so CLUELESS!! Then she looks at her OWN legs to check things out (she's wearing a schoolmarmy kinda dress but you can see her calves) and she looks at me and I reassure her that her legs are just fine and she seems happy.
I sort of love her for her quirkiness and I think she kinda loves me right back but. Well. I dunno.
Do you guys think this is, uh, a tad bit off-beat?
poster:Rigby
thread:257299
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