Posted by Dinah on September 5, 2003, at 16:29:59
In reply to Do I Have a Weird Therapist Relationship?, posted by Rigby on September 5, 2003, at 12:58:26
My therapist does his own version of the picking a fight discussion. But since he's more cerebral than emotional it takes the form of him putting his walls up and getting all cold while telling me that obviously nothing he could say today would be sufficient for me.
I think only the most evolved (or disengaged) therapists can completely avoid human feelings at what would ordinarily feel bad in any relationship.
As for the leg hair remark. I wouldn't particularly care for that one, but I'm pretty firm in my boundaries. Maybe it's a matter of personal preference. It could be seen as a natural and charming comment, or a slight boundary infringement that is best ignored.
Still.... You seem to have an overall feeling that your therapy boundaries are not where they should be. Do you think a consultation might be in order? That would help you sort out how much is her actions and how much is your perception.
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