Posted by brokenpuppet on July 13, 2010, at 20:04:53
In reply to Re: Is Anybody Responsible for Their Own Feelings? » ron1953, posted by Willful on July 13, 2010, at 10:40:17
you raise some very good points - most of which I've been thinking about lately as I'm thinking of leaving ...
I haven't been here very long and I probably spent a lot more of the time just quietly reading posts rather than voicing my opinions. When I did post, I felt like I got great responses from very sweet, intelligent and considerate people - so this is definitely NOT the reason I am thinking of leaving.
I do agree that it is hard to see a lot of suffering and feel like you can't really help, but this is not why I'm leaving either. I think it just means that we all have to know ourselves and how to deal with triggers and to look after ourselves first before we try to help others.
my reasons for leaving are to do with trust. yes, it is an issue I have struggled with all my life. from what I've read about the 'twitter/facebook' drama, I was left feeling like Dr Bob didn't take into consideration the posters and their feelings (the human beings which make this site what it is) which in my opinion should have rated higher than whether the site gets more members / rates higher on google etc. I also don't agree with (or understand) some of the 'civility rules' and blocking and while I feel like this might not affect me personally (but who knows...?) it does feel a little inhuman / machine-like to me as well.
another aspect I am uncomfortable with is my comments being able to be used in any research / article etc. I did read and agree with the disclaimer when I signed up but I still have these warning bells at the back of my mind and I feel like I should listen to them.
I don't do so well with confrontation so I've been tossing and turning on whether I should say what's been on my mind or not... (Dr Bob - if you do comment I hope you take these comments as honest feedback and nothing else)
I guess I expected more and I dont know if I can find it here. The people here have been lovely though and I am really sorry to go. I will check back once in a while to see how everyone is going.
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