Posted by violette on July 11, 2010, at 14:56:26
In reply to Re: when a person is hurt » ron1953, posted by violette on July 11, 2010, at 14:45:37
I ramble on too much, sorry. I also wanted to say that repeatedly self degenerating to justify, "to take responsibility for" one's own reaction is, imo, unhealthy. And it seems some people are more prone to seeing all the negatives in the reactions of others who clearly state their issues or faults or negative traits--but sometimes those same people do not look into themselves to see how they may have contributed to the situation. Some do, some don't. And I find it triggering when others continually blame the person who 'reacted', but never seem to point out how they may have contributed.
So always taking responsibility for your feelings in two-way communications is imo, in some ways-similar to being a doormat. IRL, I have seen people take advantage of situations like that, and continue to devalue a person as a result. Sometimes it's healthier to stand up for yourself than remain silent.
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