Posted by ron1953 on July 10, 2010, at 11:52:34
In reply to Re: Is Anybody Responsible for Their Own Feelings? » ron1953, posted by cass on July 9, 2010, at 21:14:35
There's nothing in my comments that advocate hate, attacks, etc.. I agree that calm discussion is more desireable than heated argument, but that is is an ideal, not reality. And Bob (and others) seems to be constantly seeking this impossible ideal from a one-sided perspective which says, "If you word everything just right, everything will be peachy". I'm advocating a middle ground where people are encouraged to be aware of and learn to avoid painful and damaging emotional hijackings, to stay in control despite what others may say. To me, internal temper tantrums are no better than external ones. To practice calm in the face of chaos is transforming, and will often have the effect of calming the attacker.
To get a better idea of what I'm talking about, I suggest reading "Emotional Intelligence"
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