Posted by Dr. Bob on May 7, 2010, at 12:19:42
In reply to Re: caring about each other » Dinah, posted by jane d on May 6, 2010, at 23:41:28
> So that Poster X might want to question whether your intent towards them is harmful or if whether their expectations of your actions and their interpretations of your intent lead them to actions that bring about the result they fear.
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> And Poster Z might be better off recognizing the severe limitations of your role here, along with the many evidences of your caring about Babble in general and Babblers in particular. And that no matter how administrative the role, the relationship with each Babbler is bound to be different ... And that those individual relationships, however limited, are special in their own way and the Babblers are special to you in their own way.
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> Is that what you were looking for?
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> If it is, might it be your turn to own your share of interactions?
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> DinahI think that was excellent, thank you. Sid, are those the sort of dynamics you had in mind?
"My share" means my prophecies or expectations about posters might, by influencing my actions toward them, also become realities? I'm constrained by the policies and procedures here, but that's definitely still possible.
> I can care, but it doesn't mean I make any changes to suit anything but my own beleifs.
I agree, not making a change to suit someone else's beliefs doesn't necessarily mean not caring about them.
> I don't mean to personally diss you Bob.
> Just I don't like to see you hurting people.
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> MI don't like to hurt people, either. At the same time, prophecies or expectations of hurt can make real hurt more likely.
> Posters X, Y, and Z could simplify their lives by deciding to interact with each other and all the other posters in the alphabet instead. On the board, in chat, or somewhere else entirely. Much less complicated and more gratifying.
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> jane dThat's true. Posters have the power to not to engage with those they don't get along with.
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> Dr. Bob, I don't think that you've ever "spoken" to me and that's just fine. I prefer to fly under the radar, LOL, but I do appreciate having this space.
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> TherapyGirlThanks! :-)
Bob
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