Posted by Kath on July 26, 2009, at 13:34:20
In reply to Re: make change, posted by alexandra_k on July 26, 2009, at 2:14:41
> > > Why would we encourage people to apologize when we don't believe they have done anything wrong?
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> > Because you wouldn't want them to be blocked.~ ~ ~ For me, I need to change two words of the question above. And I think the resulting question is really important...& I don't see an answer to it!!??
Here it is:
"HOW would we encourage people to apologize when we don't KNOW they have done anything wrong?"
How would we even KNOW to say anything to them about it, when we did't recognize any problem!!???It's sort of like, say I lived somewhere where there were NO poisonous snakes. So then I'm walking along a path in a country where there are rattlesnakes, but I didn't know that. So I see a snake in front of me but don't KNOW to stop & not keep walking towards it. How would I know? I wouldn't.
My second question...& I am not trying to be a smarty here. It's a sincere question. It's about wording & I notice myself lately putting a 'disclaimer' at the first of a lot of my posts, because I don't know if I'm walking into unknown danger with them.
OK - my second question has to do with the following:
>>In reply to Re: trust » rskontos, posted by twinleaf on July 8, 2009, at 16:30:39
>> Bob ... has demonstrated so little understanding of how important privacy is for us
>Please don't post anything that could lead others to feel accused or put down.
If it had been "In my opinion, Bob... etc" would that be okay? I know I-statements are important. But I suspect that it still would not be okay. Just wondering.
Thanks, Kath
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