Posted by Fallen4MyT on January 22, 2007, at 21:09:03
In reply to Re: 'I' statements, posted by Dr. Bob on January 22, 2007, at 19:37:24
> > I cannot seem to see how mt post was not civil.
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> Thanks for wanting to understand this.
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> > > I feel HF WAS being pressured in the above *posts*
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> The issue with the above is that it could lead someone who was posting with HF to feel accused of pressuring her. More of an I-statement would be something like:
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> > > I would have felt pressured in the above *posts*
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> That's more about you and less about them. Also, we're asking posters who want to notify us about an issue to do so with that button instead of by posting.
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> Does this make more sense now?
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> BobThanks Dr Bob it's a little clearer BUT :) would it have been best to have said in Hf's shoes I would have felt pressured? I try NOT to use peoples names as not to lead them to feel put down...so I did it in a general way...And why not a please rephrase that ? Maybe those no longer exist?> I lose track of the rules when they change
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