Posted by ElaineM on January 25, 2007, at 12:09:52
In reply to Re: helping, posted by Dr. Bob on January 25, 2007, at 0:16:58
>>>>Well, I'm not sure how to define "pushing" -- I guess the individual could say "I'm feeling a bit pressured, can we put away XXX subject?". That's a perfectly polite civil statement.
***Good thinking!
BobSo can you please make an official statement saying that as far as the pressuring rule goes, this is the procedure you wish to be followed. And that "pressuring" (as opposed to "threats") will be considered only anything that follows, and ignores, such a "please put aside" request.
Or is your above agreement to be considered your official policy statement?
Just keeping this clear here.
I also believe the idea of "pressuring" is relevent to the SOS situations thread. Because if "suggesting, multiple times, advice on how best to stay safe" is pressuring, then so would be trying to talk another into doing what is safest in a dangerous situation, or trying to talk someone out of doing something harmful. In fact, technically it could be even more "pressuring" cause the attempt at conversion could be more overt then, instead of expressed theorectically. Does that mean it would be the wrong thing to do? I don't think so at all! But that's what such a rule would have to suggest. It's somewhat of a "hand-binding" rule. [This is why I would've preferred to have Admin make some distinction between "pressuring" and "threatening".] But without a "please put aside" request (or something similiar), I don't see how one can protect the right of offerer's to suggest, multiple times, the advice they believe to be most appropriate to a situation (especially severe ones), while consequently protecting a listener's right to not hear, more than they'd like, advice they aren't interested in hearing.
Thanks, El
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