Posted by ElaineM on January 24, 2007, at 20:10:10
In reply to Re: helping, posted by Dr. Bob on January 24, 2007, at 0:40:16
>>>>>I'm not trying to do that, I'm trying to say that (1) if you tell them to call someone, and they don't, and you push them, then they might finally call, which would be good, but they also might just feel pushed, which would be counterproductive and (2) in addition to telling them to call someone, statements of friendship and concern can help, too.
Well, I'm not sure how to define "pushing" -- I guess the individual could say "I'm feeling a bit pressured, can we put away XXX subject?". That's a perfectly polite civil statement. At least that'd be better than having it be an arbitrary judgement of tone, or a quantification of how many times a subject can be mentioned in a thread by various posters.
Thanks for clearing up your opinion and saying that you actually do agree. I'm relieved you weren't suggesting otherwise. I've always said I've been a strong supporter of friendship statements combined with the help - as they often are - never said I wasn't. Just that to not also mention the IRL help would be severely negligent, or something, in serious circumstances.
All good.
peace, El
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