Posted by gardenergirl on October 5, 2006, at 16:21:28
In reply to Re: Blocks do cause hurt » notfred, posted by Deneb on October 5, 2006, at 16:07:57
> > You have a right to your feelings, don't blame others for your feelings.
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> I'm not blaming others for my feelings. I'm just saying that certain actions cause people to feel hurt.I disagree. An action cannot cause a feeling if there is no meaning or value of some kind attached/attributed to the action by the person. The feeling comes from within, not from without the person.
A feeling certainly can be in *reaction to* an action or event, for example a block. But the block itself cannot cause someone to feel something if they do not attach any meaning, value, or other emotional valence to it. Or, as I've said before, if you are completely indifferent to an action or event, you could not feel hurt about it.
Of course many of us *do* attach some meaning to a block and are not indifferent to what it means to us. So we do react. It can hurt. It's just not *caused by* the block.
gg
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