Posted by notfred on October 5, 2006, at 1:31:57
In reply to Re: Blocks do cause hurt » notfred, posted by Deneb on October 5, 2006, at 1:13:38
. Unless one is a sociopath, social exclusion should and does hurt. It's not just a matter of thinking, "I deserved it" so therefore I shouldn't hurt over it. Deserved or not, they hurt.
You have a right to your feelings, don't blame others for your feelings.
> If the consenquences of your actions
> > result in feeling hurt then reconsider your actions and not the result.
>
> Where did I write that we should reconsider the result?
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> Deneb*
>I said : "reconsider your actions" ie, the action that caused the block. The result is the block and exclusion.
Also, when one is blocked it is not total exclusion as they can still read. The majority of those who come here never post.
In the lab exclusion can happen w/o any event causing the exclusion. IRL exclusion happens as the result of actions or behaviors. That is not to say that just because your behaviors cause exclusion that your behaviors are bad or should be changed. Perhaps you should associate with another group. Nor do I agree with all blocks but all blocks are the result of actions and behaviors that were **well** pointed out (PBC) prior to the block.
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