Posted by Jost on October 4, 2006, at 22:12:19
In reply to Re: Blocks and other forms of exclusion hurt, posted by fayeroe on October 4, 2006, at 21:53:08
I didn't mean my comment to be frivolous. I was imagining a situation in which friends are together. Sometimes even with good friends, you can feel excluded at a moment when your friends are playing and interacting more intensely with one another than with you.
In this case I was imagining being in someone's house and having your friends be playing a game for two, and even if they're friends, feeling left out.
Not that it's a happy or "good" feeling-- although it may be part of separateness, and potentially of the motivation to turn aloneness, or even loneliness, into something constructive.
That isn't to say that isolation or feeling excluded is something one should impose on people carelessly, but it's also to suggest that the feeling can be tolerated, or even maybe bring you to some other level of insight. For example, you can begin to appreciate your friends' friendship with one another, their ability to put out move and countermove in the game-- or lots of other things, if you don't get lost in the feeling of being excluded.
Jost
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