Posted by Deneb on October 5, 2006, at 1:13:38
In reply to Blocks do not cause hurt, posted by notfred on October 5, 2006, at 0:10:28
> No one can cause you to feel anything.
Maybe no one can, but some actions can. It's theorized that it's evolutionarily advantageous to develop hurt feelings from being excluded from a social group because being a part of the group was very important for survival. I'm not saying blocks are a bad idea. I'm saying that blocks cause hurt and yes one will avoid doing things that bring about a block because of the hurt it causes. I don't think the reason for the block affects the feelings that result, yes, from the block. Unless one is a sociopath, social exclusion should and does hurt. It's not just a matter of thinking, "I deserved it" so therefore I shouldn't hurt over it. Deserved or not, they hurt.
If the consenquences of your actions
> result in feeling hurt then reconsider your actions and not the result.Where did I write that we should reconsider the result?
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