Posted by special_k on April 12, 2006, at 20:24:08
In reply to Re: the blocking policies » special_k, posted by gabbi~1 on April 12, 2006, at 12:24:15
Okay... Deep breaths... Clash of the issues or something...
To clarify: It isn't about my thinking that peoples feelings are illegitimate or wrong or anything like that.
It is more that we need to watch out for ourself and let other people watch out for themself. In the sense that I am responsible for my posts, but I am not responsible for your posts.
If I post something nasty to you... Then I am accountable for my post. If you retaliate out of hurt... You are still accountable for your post.
Why?
Becuase the cycle has to stop somewhere.
People can get upset for a variety of reasons...
It is a hard call...
Sometimes people do get blocked for lashing out at others or whatever (as they should IMO).
Sometimes people don't get blocked EVEN THOUGH others feel upset in response to the post?
Why do they feel upset?
A variety of reasons...
Sometimes personal sensitivity (I felt hurt when I read your post to me - but that is my personal sensitivity and I don't think you should be blocked or warned for what I said).
I don't think Deneb should be blocked or warned for talking about suicide or Bob or whatever she wants... So long as she isnt' accusing / attacking another... So long as she isn't joking about death... I don't see why people should be censored because others are upset - becaues others can be upset for a variety of reasons.Someone might feel very upset when they read about SI. With a trigger, without a trigger someone might feel very upset when they read about SI.
Does that mean people should be warned / blocked for posting about SI?
IMO no.
> You just said you were sometimes provocative,
Yes. That was a reference to some things I've been thinking about and posting about on other places on the boards... My conversation with pseudoname (about trying to change people's opinion). My ravings over on writing (that I'm sensitive about sure).
I like to provoke people into thinking and questioning. Yes I do. And sometimes people don't like that. It can be uncomfortable to question ones beliefs / have ones beliefs questioned. But I think it is a worthwhile thing to do... People don't have to read my threads / respond to my threads. I try and do this sensitively. Sometimes I'm not the best at that and I guess when I cross the line I get a PBS or whatever.
But should we go around making sure what we say doesn't lead to anyone feeling upset?
That would involve selling myself. Censoring myself. It would involve me shutting up about the things I most need to talk about.
Whatever.
I'm sorry Gabbi maybe we are talking about different things here.
I'm sensitive abotu the idea that I need a radical personality overhaul to be fit for human company.
Oh yes I am.
But I do appreciate that is my sensitivity... And I don't think people should be warned / blocked for saying they don't much like me or whatever.
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