Posted by JenStar on June 15, 2005, at 18:30:09
In reply to Re: Lou's reply to Minnie » Lou Pilder, posted by Minnie-Haha on June 14, 2005, at 20:16:13
folks,
I believe that posters have a certain responsibility to write things that to the best of their knowledge are not deliberately offensive.HOWEVER -- (and this is a big however!) -- READERS also have a responsibility to read "smart" and try to interpret what is being written. Whether or not English is our first language here, and whether or not we enjoy dissecting language and grammar, we need to try to understand what the OTHER person means.
Also -- as in real life, we have to be a bit flexible. WE have to ask questions if we're confused - and ask them of the person who's writing the message. We're all adults here, and we should (I believe) be capable of interacting with each other on a one:one level without additional supervision.
When I say we "have" to do this, I mean that we "should", because it's the kind of interaction and communication that seems to make business, personal relationships and society as a whole moving forward without too much analysis.
Lou, I wish you were able to read and post here without needing to ask for so many determinations. You have never explained -- to me, to Minnie, or to anyone, WHY you want so many of them, at least not in a way that I understood well.
I believe there is a duty that YOU have, Lou, to censor yourself, try to interpret what people really mean, and then to talk directly to a person if you have a concern. Of course, this is a duty EVERYONE here has, in my opinion. I"m bringing it up to you because you mentioned in a previous post that you don't want/like to address people directly. But I think that's what this forum is meant for, and I don't think you're interacting in a way that meets the standards of the others here if you consistently refuse to do that.
And I don't mean "censor" in a Nazi-ish or any other way. I censor myself a lot of the time. sometimes when I read posts, my first instinct is something like "WHat???!!!" or, "I can't believe this!" But I try to read it again, and ask a question if I need to. I'm not always pefect, as you know. :) But I think that it's important for us to internalize first before we react here.
It's my opinion only, of course. But I'm trying to explain to you why so many of us really want you to interact on a personal level, and to stop the multiple requests for determination.
JenStar
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