Posted by Minnie-Haha on June 14, 2005, at 20:11:33
In reply to Lou's reply to Minnie-explnrqstasacu » Minnie-Haha, posted by Lou Pilder on June 14, 2005, at 15:56:27
> You wrote about my requests to Dr. Hsiung for him to write a determination and that you say that,[...your requests lead some others to feel accused...].
> Is one of the others yourself?Why of course. I don't think I've made any secret of that, and others have mentioned feeling the same way too.
> If it is, could you explaine how you feel accused when I am asking Dr. Hsiung for his determination as to if the post is acceptable or not?
For one, I myself was never asked what I meant. For another, you weren't even an active participant in the thread I was posting to. So it felt to me like my posts were being monitored by someone who is not an official moderator or deputy. Finally, you were not the subject of the post in question, nor was anything you've said. Once again, when you did that I felt spied upon. It is not a pleasant way to spend your time in a support and education forum... wondering if someone is watching you, to report you (even if they do put their report in the form of a question).
> If we use the idiom example post, as I remember, the idom was ,[...with a grain of salt...] and I wanted to know if it is OK to use that in the context that you used it.
So you want to know when it is OK and not OK to use idioms? Do you want this for all idioms used in the English language? And for the different ways idioms are used in different regions? Do you think we should ban the use of idioms? Might you have asked me what I meant?
> I am not aware that asking for another's opinion could be an accusation.
If you haven't understood this yet, I don't now how I can explain it any better than I or dozens of others already have, so no, I won't try to explain further. But I am telling you, I feel accused by requests such as we're discussing. So the question still remains: Do you know that such requests offend others, regardless of whether or not you think they should or should not be offensive?
poster:Minnie-Haha
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