Posted by jay on July 7, 2002, at 20:58:39
In reply to Re: one last thought on this PBC stuff » Dr. Bob, posted by Lini on July 7, 2002, at 20:39:31
Hi Lini:I thought your post was very productive, and a good example of what I think are some of the many creative ways we can deal with conflict on here. I hope Dr. Bob takes a look at these, and shares his thoughts. Here's to more!
Cheers,
Jay
> In terms of the "PBC rules" (warning, one week block, two weeks, four etc) could there maybe be a way to earn back PBC "credit" if you are able to work things out with the poster you've offended?
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> For example, if I were to (heaven forbid) get a PBC for something that I wrote that I INTENDED to be supportive, but wasn't, and then, through conversation (posts) with the offended poster, was able to come to some sort of civil resolution, the next time I was due for a PBC (unintentionally of course) and thus a block, maybe I could just get a second warning, and therefore opportunity to clarify/be supportive?
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> That way you would be encouraging people to work things through, allowing people to model supportive behavior AND taking into account people's intentions . . . rather than just banishing them. We all aren't the world's best communicators/trained therapists/mediators/lawyers etc. so sometimes I have seen PBCs for things that were typed in a way that didn't necessarily come across the way they might have been intended . . .
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> I think taking into account a person's intentions is a process that IMO would be the most beneficial for everyone involved, since "supportive" can sometimes be a subjective term. I think it might make things more encouraging, rather than discouraging and more along the dialogue that happens in supportive "group sessions" with moderators.
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> I know I am stepping all over your structure here, but Jay's idea got me thinking . . .
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> What do ya think? Can people get out on parole?
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> ;)
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> -L
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