Posted by Dr. Bob on July 7, 2002, at 1:27:26
In reply to Re: two way street » Dr. Bob, posted by Lini on July 7, 2002, at 0:12:40
> I guess I don't see why her asking him to change his approach is unsupportive? If anything, I think she was trying to get across the fact that in order for her to be MORE supportive, she would need him to not answer every post in a particular way.
That would've been fine, something like: "If you want me to be more supportive, please stop answering all posts with City of Peace."
> For example, if I really wanted to express my deep love for strawberry margaritas and the one person talking to me asked me to stop beginning every sentence with "When I was at the bar, a waiter came by on a white horse and told me about the day's specials" then I would --- IF I really wanted to talk to this particular person about my favorite drink. I would rather know what was preventing them from talking about margaritas with me, rather than just have them ignore me cause they can't stand my approach.
I think it's good to try to put yourself in someone else's shoes, but I don't think you can necessarily assume that what they want is what you think you would.
> I think the idea is about the INTENTION of SDs post, or anyone's for that matter. If I post something on PSB and Lou responds with his City of Peace stuff, I don't particularly find that supportive, (in fact, I find it really unsupportive), but it doesn't mean he wasn't trying to be helpful.
That gets at one of the problems with intentions. Someone can mean well, but still post something uncivil.
Bob
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