Posted by Lini on July 7, 2002, at 0:12:40
In reply to Re: two way street, posted by Dr. Bob on July 5, 2002, at 3:10:23
Right, but the issue IMO was her asking him to stop talking, not him having to. He hasn't been asking that of others, has he?
Bob
I guess I don't see why her asking him to change his approach is unsupportive? If anything, I think she was trying to get across the fact that in order for her to be MORE supportive, she would need him to not answer every post in a particular way.For example, if I really wanted to express my deep love for strawberry margaritas and the one person talking to me asked me to stop beginning every sentence with "When I was at the bar, a waiter came by on a white horse and told me about the day's specials" then I would --- IF I really wanted to talk to this particular person about my favorite drink. I would rather know what was preventing them from talking about margaritas with me, rather than just have them ignore me cause they can't stand my approach.
I think the idea is about the INTENTION of SDs post, or anyone's for that matter. If I post something on PSB and Lou responds with his City of Peace stuff, I don't particularly find that supportive, (in fact, I find it really unsupportive), but it doesn't mean he wasn't trying to be helpful. SD wasn't trying to hurt his feelings, she was trying to help him better communicate a topic he adores. And, based on the flow of the thread, I think she succeeded.
After all this typing, if you're gonna get back in the ring with me, I need more than a one liner!
;)
-L
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