Posted by Cecilia on January 8, 2012, at 19:01:31
In reply to Re: A couple questions for Scott (SLS) » Cecilia, posted by g_g_g_unit on January 7, 2012, at 23:51:47
Well, I suppose it sounds paranoid to think a T would be laughing at me. I don't have any trouble figuring out where that belief came from; I had a sister who used to laugh at me a lot. And it makes sense to think in terms of whether a particular belief is working for you instead of whether or not it's "right". Just don't understand how you can force yourself to not believe something even if you can agree the belief isn't helpful. I guess it's because deep down you do believe it's helpful. For example, believing my T was laughing at me made me feel more in control, like I wouldn't be taken by surprise if she did. In the end of course, this belief wasn't particularly helpful, she became fed up with my mistrust and dumped me. Cecilia
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