Posted by floatingbridge on April 25, 2011, at 10:35:53
In reply to Re: hp + all here, questions re: SP » floatingbridge, posted by hyperfocus on April 22, 2011, at 23:56:12
Hi hyperfocus, thanks for writing and for the links. The obscurity was meant to refer to theory or theories. Because I imagine there are competing theories regarding social phobia. I think it can exist separate from trauma or ptsd. So I'm curious about SP in non-traumatized populations.
The bullying link was interesting. It nuances situations that other people tend to shrug off, saying that bullying can (and by extension, should?) be endured
or simply left behind. Work place bullying was actually something I had not thought about--. The correlation I drew was one of date rape; that not being accepted or 'seen' until the past
maybe 15 years or so ago.Another curious thing. Yesterday, an acquaintance I have known for over 20 years told me about her struggle with depression, and moreover, social anxiety. How she'd panic in a market. We both understood instantly the *shopping* thing and had a good laugh, hard won as it was. I am fairly shockproof after the last year of events; however, this wonderful woman whom I had idealize and envied. There she had been all along, putting up the good fight, and I had had no idea. But you could tell I do, I said to her, it's written all over me.
No, she said. That's the funny thing.
I would say she is more social phobia w/o traumatic events. But I'm wondering, after reading your post, that having a phobia, and as tepi has affirmed, one regarding our social selves, isn't
traumatic (leaving scars and wounds) by nature. Because as we talked, her demeanor changed. I knew she knew. She looked anxious and worn. I had not seen that before because she can compensate so well. And because I just
didn't see; too busy dealing and hiding on my end. Sigh. We agreed to keep in touch by email. No phone calls...yet.Please take care. Thank you, hp.
*a rose by any name
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