Posted by KimberlyDi on December 1, 2003, at 14:08:17
In reply to Someone please help....last ditch effort!, posted by RWF on November 29, 2003, at 11:18:17
Having a baby is scary. I know I could be numb from shock or fear as the delivery date draws nearer. I almost freaked out... overcome with panic... I wanted to scream out "I've changed my mind, I don't want to have a baby! Make it go away!!!"
So you have a life change appearing on the horizon with 9 months advance notice. Change is difficult. Some you see coming, most you don't. My mother-in-law died unexpectedly and threw our lives into a tailspin. Look at this time as a chance to mentally adjust ahead of time. I suggest therapy. You aren't a monster. BUT, not dealing with this could cost you your family and marriage.
As to medication, alot of Anti-Depressants MAKE you feel numb, that's why I suggested therapy. If you wanted to try an A-D, I would suggest low levels of Paxil. My husband takes that, and he is much more loving, relaxed and happy on it. Off of it, he's a stressed and angry man. I took Paxil successfully for years for anxiety. Don't try Effexor right off the bat. There's a high risk for terrible Side Effects and/or Withdrawal that you don't need to deal with right now.
Good luck. You'll be ok.
KDi in TX
> I am starting to feel so numb lately towards my wife.
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> I am not on any meds except Ativan for anxiety.
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> I need to know how to wake up from these feelings! Are there any meds that will help me?
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> I know I love her, but I am starting to feel numb!
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> We are expecting another child, and I know I am not ready for this. I expect my numbness is from the stress of a new child, but I need to feel love again.
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> I feel like I am becoming a monster!
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> Please someone help me.
poster:KimberlyDi
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