Posted by BeachGuy on August 19, 2003, at 11:33:15
In reply to Re: SSRI's and R.E. Dark Irony » BeachGuy, posted by Susan J on August 19, 2003, at 9:02:29
Susan...just the fact you are taking an interest is a pretty big boost to self esteem.
So your Ex was a premature ejculator? The PE's and the RE's or so jealous of each other!lol But in truth both probs can destroy a relationship. Although, as a true RE guy I do think PE is better because you DO orgasm so at least you're satisfied...frustrated maybe, but satisfied physically so much better than being horny as hell with no payoff.
Yes I do go to a regular therapist...one of the top sex therapists in the country. I have spent over $18,000 so far trying to get this fixed with a number of therapists over the last 15 years.
There are two kinds of self esteem: core self esteem and exterior self esteem. I have exterior self esteem to burn. If you met me at a party you would have no clue there were problems. I have a very successful career and work very hard on this "shield" of exterior self esteem.
But core self esteem? forget it....it's lower than a snake's belly and has been since I was a baby.
It's probably causes by the low level anxiety and depression which in turn runs in my family.You are what your brain chemicals dictate. Therapy can uncover the causes of problems...but fix them? It's doubtful. My subconcious core says I don't deserve an orgasm and that's that.
The therapists always rub their hands tgether in glee when they first hear my story because most of them love a challenge and I'm a change from the "hubby won't have sex with me anymore boo hoo" that these therapists usually deal with day to day.
But a few months later....after trying everything, I know the signs...they start taking off their glasses and rubbing their eyes and sighing....that's when I know they are starting to give up. I've seen it a least a half dozen times.
Their is no drug to treat this...Viagra is for plumbing probs only and believe me erections are no problem for me. Like most guys suffering from RE I can hold mine for over an hour sometimes longer. Many think this would be an advantage...to be able to give a woman as many orgasms thru intercourse that she can handle. But I stoped having sex years ago because the stress of the RE is just too much to bear.
BG
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