Posted by juniper on May 29, 2000, at 3:55:54
In reply to Re: LIVING, posted by Jennifer on May 29, 2000, at 3:28:54
you've got a lot on your plate. i am ultrasensitive to rejection, and in a very small way i can relate to your feelings of your husband leaving. i entered my last relationship tenatively and carefully, making sure that the whole way this guy Knew that the thing that would hurt me most would not be our break-up, but if he ever totally extricated himself from my life. and i thought, perhaps the way that you thought your husband would always be there, that this guy would never cut me out of his life. it is such a sick feeling to have this knowledge, the way you really think things are, and will continue to be, pulled away and you aren't quite sure what should replace it. anyone, even the most emotionally strong and balanced person, would feel hurt under the circumstances. but you've been battling your own demons and now they suddenly have reinforcements. it is good to see that while part of you wants to, you are not giving up. giving up is not allowing yourself to be weak---if you want to collapse on your bed and sob for a few days, perhaps this is what your body is telling you it needs (just make sure you have someone, or something to eventually rouse you out of bed, and your house). i say that you are not giving up because you are taking small steps of acknowledging your feelings, and sharing them (even though you said that it was hard for you to do). your spirit shows through your honest, humble, and compassionate posts----you have many here who care for you and are sending good thoughts and prayers your way. please keep updating us.
-----your husband must have left because you are not a good wife? (!?!????!) this wins the award for the most ignorant, non reality based statement i have heard all week, and perhaps this month.
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