Posted by Janice on October 20, 1999, at 23:36:18
In reply to I gots this theory, see?, posted by Racer on October 19, 1999, at 23:35:14
hi, so you think we all feel ugly inside because we form our opinion of our appearance at the most awkard and ugly phase of our existence, and when, unfortunately, appearance is most important to us.
Is your internal snapshot a good one? Is it a visual one like a picture, a 3D moving picture, or an emotional snapshot?
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I like your suggestion of keeping it a separate issue because so far, feeling ugly doesn't seem to be a part of any of my other disorders. I used to wear make-up... lately I don't because I'm travelling and can't be bothered. I think you're suggesting make-up as a psychological boast, and just thinking back in my life I believe it could have helped. So you concentrate your attention on your the individual features, rather than the big picture so you don't get overwhelmed. And you try not to judge yourself. So I probably have to become aware of when I am judging my appearance (so far I am only aware of feeling ugly - somewhere along the line, I certainly must be judging myself), and then maybe talk myself out of it. ]I loved your story about your mother's words of wisdom (I had three quick, distinct emotional reactions while reading that story, to put them simply, I laughed, felt bad, and then I understood). I also really liked what you said about 'feeling ugly' being a type of self-consciousness. Thanks so much for your response, I may be asking you some more questions. Feeling ugly is ridiculous, Janice.
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