Posted by Elle on September 17, 1999, at 19:01:27
In reply to The Counselor, posted by Cass on September 17, 1999, at 12:52:46
> One of the reasons I am so charged up about this issue is that I have seen the high school counselor around town twice in the span of two months. This has been very unusual. Before that I had not seen him for many, many years. Both occurences brought up all kinds of emotions. I wanted to say something to him so badly. I wanted to tell him how different my life could have been if he had handled my situation thoughtfully. But I did not approach him. Coincidentally, my present therapist knows him. She says that he is arrogant and demeaning and that when she worked with him he had done a grave injustice to four students who were then referred to her: He had labeled them "bad kids" when, in her opinion, they were not so bad, at all. I feel like talking to him, but if he's arrogant or condescending I might end up feeling worse. It's been a long time, his answer might be "Get over it," which I know would only prove his moral cowardice, but it would still frustrate me.
> Thanks to everyone who has given me support in this thread so far!I wish Mr. counselor knew that despite his deplorable handling of your crisis you've moved forward, grown and gained insight. He, on the other hand reached the height of his ability long ago. He has now earned the reputation he deserves, even your therapist knows about him. I hope he is near retirement.
Oh! About Alice Miller, I had her book,Thou Shalt Not Be Aware, on my desk while reading your thread, it seemed an appropriate suggestion that you read her. That is ironic since I hadn't read the "Books" thread with your pick.
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