Posted by Racer on September 17, 1999, at 16:00:05
In reply to Re: The Counselor, posted by Bob on September 17, 1999, at 13:34:44
My mother is one of the sweetest creatures on earth. She is also as manipulative as you can imagine in some ways, but she's not aware that she's doing it. Add to that her martyrdom thing, and then let's talk about her boyfriend... When I was a child, I had to listen to him put her down all the time, hurt her feelings for fun, and insult her looks (she's actually pretty, but doesn't know it). Guess what? Someone who would do that won't stop there. He used to say things to her like, "you know, Sue, this child wouldn't be too ugly if you'd only get her nose fixed..." He knew that that was hurtful, but he ENJOYED having that sort of power. And guess what? He was also a child molester. I won't go into all the details of the horrors of those years, but I will say that I begged for help, and got the same sort of response you did.
I can't imagine anything more painful than what it sounds as though you've gone through. I wish that I could do something to help you through the healing, because that's all that's left now and it can be almost more painful than the hurts were themselves. Would you like to correspond some off the board? Just trade the horror stories and know that you're not alone? If you're concerned about anonymity, you can set up a free mail address from excite or hotmail or something. Just let me know.
And that counselor sounds like the idiot teacher who believed the gossip about me at the school, at a time I was being regularly abused at home (though my sweet mother didn't deserve such a bad girl as I...). I think often about getting in touch with him and trying to wipe that damn smugness out of his life.
Love and light, Cass, love and light
poster:Racer
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