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Posted by becksA on December 23, 2006, at 13:13:48
Some of you may have read my posts lately about me being so close to finish college/university, but in order to get my parents support they want me to work 3 more months to help with money as they are also supporting my brother and sister. In any case, I have talked about how I don't think I can go back. My boss is a maniac, has serious anger management issues, and I am his direct assistant. Every day is the same, I work in shipping/receiving, so every day at the same time the trucks come and I unload boxes, count them, log them in, count them, and price them. Every day is the same, and I hate my boss.
I appreciate what you, Eleanor and Ronaldo have said....in inspiring me because check this out. :) My boss is about 25 years older than me, rents this single bedroom apartment even though he could afford more if he didnt waste his money and save it better, refuses to use a 401k, and I ask him how can you do this mindless work 6 days a week 60 hours a week for 25 years and not go crazy? He responds by saying he just shuts his brain off. That says it all. I'm not like him. I've got to get those 3 months done with so i can finish University and get a proper job that I really enjoy doing, but it is going to be a horrible 3 months!
I have talked to the manager once, she knows what I'm going through in terms of meds, but how am I to be sure that she hasn't told my boss (and just told him not to tell me)? How will I know who else doesn't know? Word spreads quick in a retail store like that.Question is, if I can gut it out and really just force myself, could I count on you guys as support? Come back after a days work, say what happened...what I'm thinking....you'd be my only true support network in those 3 months. Then I could finally finish school :) sighhhhhhh
thanks :-/
Posted by tweeds on December 23, 2006, at 13:13:48
In reply to Eleanor, others - help me through this?, posted by becksA on December 22, 2006, at 13:02:55
Becks:
I worked in transportation/logistics/ship/receive for ten years.
You think right now that the sh*t you have to put up with work right now is the most awful thing in the world. Trust me, it ain't. I've been in EXACTLY the same job you've been, from what you've described, and remember, it's a temporary thing.
Even if nobody else here says you can count on me. I've been there. Babble mail me if you need to.I REALLY MEAN IT, DARN IT!
Hope I've been emphatic enough.
Harris.
Posted by Quintal on December 23, 2006, at 13:13:48
In reply to Eleanor, others - help me through this?, posted by becksA on December 22, 2006, at 13:02:55
I've had similar jobs to this in warehouses etc. - was even a garbage man at one point when I worked for a recruitment agency. They sent me to different factories every few months - and I'm a social phobe so it was difficult. Anyway..... I know what you mean and yes, you can count on me too for support.
I know this sounds lame, but I get through days like that by visualising - daydreaming or thinking I guess while my body goes through the motions. I soon get to know my routine so well that my mind can go elsewhere - I can't switch it off. That can lead to rumination of course and for that an opiate was good for keeping me focused on the positive. Can you think of a way of rewarding yourself every night after work - a few beers or whatever gives you a mild buzz and lifts your spirits? Kratom is very good for this, but I don't know if you can get it where you are, but here's a link just in case: http://www.iamshaman.com/kratom.htm
Klonopin helped take the edge off my anxiety and a stimulant helped motivation and energy levels. I took Parnate but I guess any stim would help. Could you get a benzo stim combo? There's some good advice on this thread if you haven't read it already: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20061217/msgs/715578.html
Q
Posted by ronaldo on December 23, 2006, at 13:13:48
In reply to Eleanor, others - help me through this?, posted by becksA on December 22, 2006, at 13:02:55
Hi BecksA,
You can gut it out. You know you can. You have a very powerful reason to gut it out. You don't have to hate your boss, you should feel sorry for him. It can't be insurmountable just to get on with him for 3 months.
Do you think you should give your manager a call and ask her if she has told anyone about your illness? If she has told your boss then the chances are she may also have told him to go easy on you. Which can't be a bad thing. I think you should phone your manager and find out who else knows. That might set your mind at ease and you will be able to stop fretting about it.
What starts off as 'Do they know?' rapidly becomes 'Do they know that I know that they know?'. This can become 'Do they know that I know that they know that I know?'. It soon gets out of hand and your best bet is to ask your
manager who (if anyone) she has told and to end the speculation right there. Once you know who knows you will be on an equal footing with your work colleagues.Will work be busy when you get back? Retail is generally a bit slow after the Xmas rush so you won't be under too much pressure. On the other hand if things are very busy you won't have time to think. Too much thinking is not good.
Remember always why you are doing it. Imagine what your life would be like if you never ever finished college. Imagine yourself turning into a version of your boss. You should love these three months for giving you the chance to escape that fate.
You are always going to have your medical history. You will always have to live with it. This is the first step and the first step is the hardest. After the first step things get progressively easier. Day 1 will be hard but day 2 will be a bit easier. Come day 10 you may be wondering what all the fuss was about.
I will give you encouragement and support.
Good Luck!
ronaldo
> Some of you may have read my posts lately about me being so close to finish college/university, but in order to get my parents support they want me to work 3 more months to help with money as they are also supporting my brother and sister. In any case, I have talked about how I don't think I can go back. My boss is a maniac, has serious anger management issues, and I am his direct assistant. Every day is the same, I work in shipping/receiving, so every day at the same time the trucks come and I unload boxes, count them, log them in, count them, and price them. Every day is the same, and I hate my boss.
>
> I appreciate what you, Eleanor and Ronaldo have said....in inspiring me because check this out. :) My boss is about 25 years older than me, rents this single bedroom apartment even though he could afford more if he didnt waste his money and save it better, refuses to use a 401k, and I ask him how can you do this mindless work 6 days a week 60 hours a week for 25 years and not go crazy? He responds by saying he just shuts his brain off. That says it all. I'm not like him. I've got to get those 3 months done with so i can finish University and get a proper job that I really enjoy doing, but it is going to be a horrible 3 months!
> I have talked to the manager once, she knows what I'm going through in terms of meds, but how am I to be sure that she hasn't told my boss (and just told him not to tell me)? How will I know who else doesn't know? Word spreads quick in a retail store like that.
>
> Question is, if I can gut it out and really just force myself, could I count on you guys as support? Come back after a days work, say what happened...what I'm thinking....you'd be my only true support network in those 3 months. Then I could finally finish school :) sighhhhhhh
>
> thanks :-/
Posted by elanor roosevelt on December 25, 2006, at 22:13:46
In reply to Re: Eleanor, others - help me through this? » becksA, posted by ronaldo on December 23, 2006, at 7:20:33
3 months
hey,start the countdown
babble me if you need me
i will check in here
what is your major in school?
Posted by elanor roosevelt on February 8, 2007, at 9:40:55
In reply to Eleanor, others - help me through this?, posted by becksA on December 22, 2006, at 13:02:55
how is it going?
hope you have a friend at work with a good sense of the absurd
let us know
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