Posted by ronaldo on December 23, 2006, at 7:20:33 [reposted on December 23, 2006, at 13:13:48 | original URL]
In reply to Eleanor, others - help me through this?, posted by becksA on December 22, 2006, at 13:02:55
Hi BecksA,
You can gut it out. You know you can. You have a very powerful reason to gut it out. You don't have to hate your boss, you should feel sorry for him. It can't be insurmountable just to get on with him for 3 months.
Do you think you should give your manager a call and ask her if she has told anyone about your illness? If she has told your boss then the chances are she may also have told him to go easy on you. Which can't be a bad thing. I think you should phone your manager and find out who else knows. That might set your mind at ease and you will be able to stop fretting about it.
What starts off as 'Do they know?' rapidly becomes 'Do they know that I know that they know?'. This can become 'Do they know that I know that they know that I know?'. It soon gets out of hand and your best bet is to ask your
manager who (if anyone) she has told and to end the speculation right there. Once you know who knows you will be on an equal footing with your work colleagues.Will work be busy when you get back? Retail is generally a bit slow after the Xmas rush so you won't be under too much pressure. On the other hand if things are very busy you won't have time to think. Too much thinking is not good.
Remember always why you are doing it. Imagine what your life would be like if you never ever finished college. Imagine yourself turning into a version of your boss. You should love these three months for giving you the chance to escape that fate.
You are always going to have your medical history. You will always have to live with it. This is the first step and the first step is the hardest. After the first step things get progressively easier. Day 1 will be hard but day 2 will be a bit easier. Come day 10 you may be wondering what all the fuss was about.
I will give you encouragement and support.
Good Luck!
ronaldo
> Some of you may have read my posts lately about me being so close to finish college/university, but in order to get my parents support they want me to work 3 more months to help with money as they are also supporting my brother and sister. In any case, I have talked about how I don't think I can go back. My boss is a maniac, has serious anger management issues, and I am his direct assistant. Every day is the same, I work in shipping/receiving, so every day at the same time the trucks come and I unload boxes, count them, log them in, count them, and price them. Every day is the same, and I hate my boss.
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> I appreciate what you, Eleanor and Ronaldo have said....in inspiring me because check this out. :) My boss is about 25 years older than me, rents this single bedroom apartment even though he could afford more if he didnt waste his money and save it better, refuses to use a 401k, and I ask him how can you do this mindless work 6 days a week 60 hours a week for 25 years and not go crazy? He responds by saying he just shuts his brain off. That says it all. I'm not like him. I've got to get those 3 months done with so i can finish University and get a proper job that I really enjoy doing, but it is going to be a horrible 3 months!
> I have talked to the manager once, she knows what I'm going through in terms of meds, but how am I to be sure that she hasn't told my boss (and just told him not to tell me)? How will I know who else doesn't know? Word spreads quick in a retail store like that.
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> Question is, if I can gut it out and really just force myself, could I count on you guys as support? Come back after a days work, say what happened...what I'm thinking....you'd be my only true support network in those 3 months. Then I could finally finish school :) sighhhhhhh
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> thanks :-/
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