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Posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
Two sessions ago, I felt like he was too invested in a certain idea of what was best for me at work. And I told him he needed to back off, that he wasn't being helpful, and that I thought he was pushing me to do what he thought was best for me. I told him that I thought it best that we didn't talk about work.
It wasn't a terribly confrontational thing. I knew he wanted the best for me. What he thought was best maybe, but the best.
Today I gingerly brought up work again, and he was much much more helpful.
I really like how my therapist listens to what I say, and if he thinks I may have a point, feels free to change tracks.
I guess I even like that he cares enough to get overinvested. But I like better that he can recognize that and quit.
Posted by fayeroe on February 9, 2007, at 18:14:22
In reply to I like my therapist, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
sounds like a good T, indeed.....pat
Posted by sunnydays on February 9, 2007, at 18:14:45
In reply to I like my therapist, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
Posted by peddidle on February 9, 2007, at 18:43:57
In reply to I like my therapist, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
I'm glad you like your T. :)
Isn't it always nice when we know that we are special to our T, and not just "another client"?
Posted by Orchid on February 9, 2007, at 19:09:33
In reply to I like my therapist, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
Nice to read your post Dinah. I am glad you and your T worked through all the difficulties and still manage to work well together. I remember how confused and upset you were a while back.
Hope everything is all right with you. I haven't been reading the boards too much, so haven't been up to date with how everyone is doing.
Take Care
Posted by Daisym on February 11, 2007, at 0:44:12
In reply to I like my therapist, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
I like him too! :)
I think it is great how well you know each other and how to work things out. You should write a book, "How to train your therapist is 6 easy lessons."
Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2007, at 10:36:21
In reply to Re: I like my therapist » Dinah, posted by Daisym on February 11, 2007, at 0:44:12
lol. Yes, Daisy. He says that our relationship has helped a lot in his journey to being a more mature therapist.
You know, come to think of it, he used to protect himself from becoming too invested by leaning back, crossing his arms (literally or physically), and throwing up a wall. Disengaging. I HATED that, and would always wail "You're crossing your arms! You're crossing your arms!" I told him I'd rather he yell than cut me off from him. So this time he figuratively yelled and I told him to back off. I did indeed prefer it to disengaging, but I didn't like it.
Boy, I'm tough.
But he managed to walk that fine line between disengagement and overinvestment in our last session.
You know, I am going to have to remember a lot of this as my son enters his teen years. :)
Posted by Daisym on February 11, 2007, at 23:17:12
In reply to Re: I like my therapist » Dinah, posted by Daisym on February 11, 2007, at 0:44:12
You know, in my studies about how we take in information, crossing your arms is actually an attempt to better understand what is being communicated -- it is a body response trying to link the left and right brain. So perhaps he wasn't disengaging but rather contemplating. I see the (cartoon) balloon above his head ..."what the He!!" does she want me to do?" :)
(grin)
Posted by Dinah on February 11, 2007, at 23:49:16
In reply to Re: I like my therapist, posted by Daisym on February 11, 2007, at 23:17:12
Not when he did it. :) It was accompanied by such statements as "Well, you'll do whatever you want to do." and by an almost physical sensation of him wrenching himself away.
And I want nothing less than perfection, in whatever way I'm defining it each session - of course! (grin)
No, really, anything is better than disengaged.
Posted by happykat on February 12, 2007, at 15:05:30
In reply to I like my therapist, posted by Dinah on February 9, 2007, at 16:46:12
Posted by Dinah on February 12, 2007, at 19:03:04
In reply to I like your therapist too! Wanna trade? ; ) (nm) » Dinah, posted by happykat on February 12, 2007, at 15:05:30
Posted by happykat on February 14, 2007, at 16:49:00
In reply to No way! But I'm a relatively good sharer. :) (nm) » happykat, posted by Dinah on February 12, 2007, at 19:03:04
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