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Posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
I was beaglesitting for the past three weeks, as I may have mentioned. A very special old girl (15 with terrible arthritis and recovering from liver surgery, but still plugging along). Anyway, the owners came back today and as soon as I saw them I burst into tears. I actually started crying last night when I was packing and she tried to climb into my suitcase.I didn't even know how much this was going to hurt. The hardest part, I think, is knowing how much she misses me, too.
Is it true that you can love a human more than this?
Posted by ClearSkies on December 19, 2005, at 16:58:05
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
For me it is a completely different kind of love. I think we connect with animals on a very basic, spiritual level. No help from language; just our voice inflections, and maybe body language (with cats, anyway - my cat does not speak english).
It's a pure form of communication, and it doesn't get soiled with ill spoken words, or bad moods, or sulking. The animals I've known seem to have loved me no matter what I said.
CS
Posted by fallsfall on December 19, 2005, at 17:33:38
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
(((((Crushed)))))
It is wonderful to love and be loved like that.
Posted by Dinah on December 19, 2005, at 20:21:44
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
Maybe not the same way. :)
Having a pet is wonderful therapy, and you just lost your cat, didn't you? I imagine the parting from your pet guest might have brought up some of that loss as well. At least that's how it works for me.
Posted by muffled on December 19, 2005, at 21:09:26
In reply to Re: My heart is broken » crushedout, posted by Dinah on December 19, 2005, at 20:21:44
The love for an animal is not to be underestimated at all. There can be huge bonding. Just as much as people I'd say. Sorry your hurting crushed. Must be hard. :(
Muffled
Posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 21:54:43
In reply to Re: My heart is broken » crushedout, posted by Dinah on December 19, 2005, at 20:21:44
My cat died a little over a year ago, but I think you're right, that this brought up a lot of feelings about the cat, also because this was an old, sick dog, and my cat was sick (although not old) for five years before he died. So, there's a lot of sadness and helplessness involved.And trying as hard as you can to help a pathetic creature makes me feel good but also very useless and sad. And it reminds me of how my therapist must feel trying to help me.
Posted by LadyBug on December 19, 2005, at 22:06:18
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
I'm sorry this is so hard for you. We had a dog for 15 years and I became soooo attached to him. He was there for me when I was so sad no human would understand. We got another dog this last March, I did't want another dog, as they can be such a pain in the butt, but she's been the greatest thing added to our family. She's so loved and she gives so much love back to all of us. She's made us laugh when we were crying in pain. The last few months at our house have been very painful, but she brightens our lives.
Oh the love of a pet is so great. Maybe you can get another pet for you. It's wonderfully theraputic for me. I love my Alee dog!
LadyBug
Posted by fairywings on December 20, 2005, at 0:09:08
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
(((crushed)))
I did the same thing when friends of ours left their "love sponge" with me. I loved him so much, and it hurt when she came home early. she was shocked i cried, and then later she understood. he was full of so much love. animals love us unconditionally, ppl have more trouble with that.
fw
Posted by LauraBeane on December 20, 2005, at 8:34:15
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
Hi crushed,
What a lucky puppy to have you caring for her and loving her like that. It sounds like you really spoke to her and she responded to you in that way that only dogs can do. We just lost our beagle and she was so sweet. Not the brightest dog but fiercely affectionate and never ever ever gave up on anything. I miss her and I understand your sadness. Even though it's painful, you did a good thing giving a part of your heart to that beagle. Take care.
Posted by fairywings on December 21, 2005, at 19:02:35
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
Hey crushed how ya doing? Are you feeling any better? I hope so.
fw
Posted by LauraBeane on December 21, 2005, at 20:38:36
In reply to My heart is broken, posted by crushedout on December 19, 2005, at 15:46:10
Hi again,
I just read my previous post and I hope I didn't offend when I said my beagle wasn't the brightest dog. I meant that with all my love and affection but when I read it now it sounds mean and superior. I wish I hadn't said that!!I too hope you are ok.
Posted by crushedout on December 22, 2005, at 18:34:45
In reply to Re: My heart is broken » crushedout, posted by LauraBeane on December 21, 2005, at 20:38:36
Oh, no, you shouldn't feel badly at all. I didn't take offense.This beagle was actually very smart.
Posted by crushedout on December 22, 2005, at 18:37:23
In reply to Re: My heart is broken » crushedout, posted by fairywings on December 21, 2005, at 19:02:35
Hey, fw. Thanks for asking.--you are sweet.i am a lot better--that intense first-day of loss pain passes. Now I just miss her and think of her fondly. And hopefully I will see her tomorrow!
Posted by fairywings on December 22, 2005, at 20:13:25
In reply to Re: My heart is broken » fairywings, posted by crushedout on December 22, 2005, at 18:37:23
I hope you do get to see her tomorrow crushed. And don't worry about the comment you thought ppl would take wrong, i didn't even think about that.
fw
Posted by LauraBeane on December 22, 2005, at 21:17:28
In reply to Re: My heart is broken » LauraBeane, posted by crushedout on December 22, 2005, at 18:34:45
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