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Posted by B2chica on December 15, 2005, at 12:09:13
ok, so once you've spilled your guts out what are you and your T supposed to talk about? what do i say to him, after i've dumped a load of cr@p on him? what is there left to say.
do you discuss it? do i ask him questions? does he ask me questions?
i guess i don't know what to say in my next session (which is tomorrow)any advice?
Posted by fairywings on December 15, 2005, at 12:49:04
In reply to after you spill, what's left?, posted by B2chica on December 15, 2005, at 12:09:13
Hi B2,
How do you feel right now? how do you feel about what you told him? maybe writing out what you told him and his responses will get your thoughts going. Do you think getting all of the cr*p out helped? So many ppl have said it's not a linear process, and that never occured to me b4 i heard it here. Maybe now that it's out you can work on what to do with it? How to deal with all the pain.
fw
Posted by ghost on December 15, 2005, at 16:32:07
In reply to after you spill, what's left?, posted by B2chica on December 15, 2005, at 12:09:13
i don't know. after i spilled my guts i changed the subject the next session and didnt really bring it up again. i guess i'm a good poster child for avoidance :)
ghost
Posted by daisym on December 15, 2005, at 18:44:54
In reply to after you spill, what's left?, posted by B2chica on December 15, 2005, at 12:09:13
You pick up the pieces and make a new puzzle.
I think you talk about talking about it. And then you talk about what connections you are noticing to your behaviors now that have roots in your abuse.
You talk about your relationships and try to decide what if anything needs to change.
And then you spill again, you cry some more, you ask "why?" and "where was everyone?" and then you get mad at your therapist for not having been there. (OK -- perhaps this is just me...)
The work of telling is very hard. The work of healing is much harder.
I hope you have a good session tomorrow.
Posted by tarabara on December 15, 2005, at 19:32:54
In reply to Re: after you spill, what's left?, posted by daisym on December 15, 2005, at 18:44:54
just be happy that you were able to spill your guts! i've been working w/ my T for a year and i'm not there. i get hung up along the way with what my therapist and i believe are relevant issues. these issues are the feelings i walk away with after a difficult session. how i interpret a comment, his behavior, a certain situation. i examine how i acted in a certain situation and oftentime realize a pattern that i see in my past. it all starts to become clear. you have to look carefully at the guts you just spilled and go through it all and figure out what parts made you unhappy, anxious, angry, sad, happy, confident, betrayed, etc.
easier said than done. it's good that you were able to get it all out though. sometimes that is the hardest part.
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