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Posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
I'm worried about tomorrow. I'm scared that Bubba will be mean again. I'm afraid he'll accuse me of being a liar again, or of calling his house (I wish I knew where that crap was coming from... He did mention an ex-girlfriend who used to prank him. But, if I bring that up, he'll get defensive and he is the professional..)or driving past his house. I bought some candy to take in, which we discussed prior to the incident, hoping that helps ease the tension. I'm not mad at him, I'm actually a bit frightened of him to be perfectly honest. And I don't like being accused of lying, especially when I'm not. Especially to test my reaction.
I'm just not even sure who's fault this is?? I mean, can I hope to be helped by someone that I honestly feel a bit scard of? I mean, if I have to call him to reschedule appointments, I lock myself in the bathroom so there isn't any outside noise because I know he's temperamental (or paranoid) and possibly thinking I'm playing some type of joke on him. All because my dog once was barking in the background... This is getting frustrating... Just tell me everything is going to be ok.. Please??
Posted by DaisyM on January 27, 2004, at 21:08:30
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Karen,
I think things will be fine. When I was upset with my Therapist, I went in scared to death. I took a deep breath and just said, "I've been upset with you all weekend." He was surprised, thanked me for bringing it up, told me I was brave and we talked about why I was upset.I didn't get an apology but close to it. And he learned more about how I take things, like silence to me is just awful and I interpret it as anger. So your Therapist will learn something about you too.
Just be honest about how you feel. You have an established relationship. I think you'll get through this. I'm sorry you are anxious tonight. Wish I could help -- you always help me. Let us know how it goes tomorrow.
-D
Posted by Elle2021 on January 27, 2004, at 21:10:38
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried... » Karen_kay, posted by DaisyM on January 27, 2004, at 21:08:30
Karen,
I think things are going to be okay. Perhaps you should tell Bubba that he hurt your feelings during the last session. See what he says about it.
Elle
Posted by All Done on January 27, 2004, at 21:54:19
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
> I'm worried about tomorrow. I'm scared that Bubba will be mean again. I'm afraid he'll accuse me of being a liar again, or of calling his house (I wish I knew where that crap was coming from... He did mention an ex-girlfriend who used to prank him. But, if I bring that up, he'll get defensive and he is the professional..)or driving past his house. I bought some candy to take in, which we discussed prior to the incident, hoping that helps ease the tension. I'm not mad at him, I'm actually a bit frightened of him to be perfectly honest. And I don't like being accused of lying, especially when I'm not. Especially to test my reaction.
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> I'm just not even sure who's fault this is?? I mean, can I hope to be helped by someone that I honestly feel a bit scard of? I mean, if I have to call him to reschedule appointments, I lock myself in the bathroom so there isn't any outside noise because I know he's temperamental (or paranoid) and possibly thinking I'm playing some type of joke on him. All because my dog once was barking in the background... This is getting frustrating... Just tell me everything is going to be ok.. Please??Karen,
I know it's probably close to impossible, but try not to worry about tomorrow. I know that anxious/nervous feeling about going to a therapy session with something difficult to discuss. It's no fun, but I know you can handle it and you'll do great. None of this was your fault and, as I keep telling you, you were brave to bring it up. You'll be brave to talk to him tomorrow and it *will* be for the best. I know it will help your therapy with Bubba progress.
I wish I had more words of wisdom for you, but how's this instead?
((((((((((Karen))))))))))
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow morning. And if Bubba doesn't want the candy, you can share it with us : ).
Take care,
All Done
Posted by Dinah on January 27, 2004, at 22:06:10
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Well, if he gives you any grief, send him to us. He'll be happy to go back to just you afterwards. We'll set him straight. He needs to join the new internet age, for heavens sake.
Sheesh. What would therapists do if we weren't there to train them?
Try not to worry too much.
Posted by Asya on January 27, 2004, at 22:06:37
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Karen,
Please take a few deep breaths and realize when u take a few steps back in this therapy thing we are all human beings and mess up, and there are ALWAYS issues to be had in a relationship where we are in essence paying someone to help us emotionally. Just be yourself, be respectful, and be brave. I KNOW it is going to go well!
Posted by 64Bowtie on January 28, 2004, at 6:43:16
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried... » Karen_kay, posted by All Done on January 27, 2004, at 21:54:19
(((((((posting person))))))) means a "Group Hug!!!"
Thanx you guys (and gals) for teaching me stuff!
(((((((y'alls)))))))
Rod
Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 28, 2004, at 8:37:18
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Karen, one way to go in there is to keep telling yourself that HE is working for YOU. He is supposed to have your best interests at heart at all times. If you feel or begin to feel that this may not be the case, then it is time to think about another therapist. If you feel uncomfortable and feel as if you have to walk on egg shells all the time, that might be a sign that things are not what they should be.
He works for you, girl!
Posted by Dinah on January 28, 2004, at 8:39:16
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Posted by Poet on January 28, 2004, at 9:31:44
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Karen,
Try not to blame yourself for the recent problems with Bubba. You were being honest with him, which is a good thing in therapy. If you can, try to tell him what his behavior is doing to you. He needs to know.
Please let us know how it went.
Poet
Posted by lookdownfish on January 28, 2004, at 10:56:26
In reply to Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 27, 2004, at 21:00:05
Bubba should be completely accepting of you googling him, knowing his address and all this stuff. Don't let him dare be mean again. He does sound a bit paranoid. Can't he trust you after all this time? Hopefully you can both talk about all of this honestly, it might actually improve your relationship and take the therapy forward. Good luck. Can you spike his candy with something relaxing...?
Posted by Karen_kay on January 28, 2004, at 14:29:25
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried... » Karen_kay, posted by lookdownfish on January 28, 2004, at 10:56:26
He was fine about the whole googling thing... Now, something else has come up. And I don't feel like talking about it right now. I'll feel better later. But, some admin BS in the system is being switched around and in April, I may be switched to a different therapist. Bubba said that I'm one of the few clients he would like to keep (yeah, that helped a bit). I'm not sure what's going on, but I'm not feeling well right now. I'll get back later. I'm fine, just a bit sad :)
Posted by All Done on January 28, 2004, at 14:39:00
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 28, 2004, at 14:29:25
> He was fine about the whole googling thing... Now, something else has come up. And I don't feel like talking about it right now. I'll feel better later. But, some admin BS in the system is being switched around and in April, I may be switched to a different therapist. Bubba said that I'm one of the few clients he would like to keep (yeah, that helped a bit). I'm not sure what's going on, but I'm not feeling well right now. I'll get back later. I'm fine, just a bit sad :)
Karen,
I'm glad to hear things went okay about the googling, but I'm sorry to hear about the new stuff. More hugs for Karen...
(((((Karen)))))
We're here if and when you're ready to talk.
All Done
Posted by gardenergirl on January 28, 2004, at 15:19:50
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 28, 2004, at 14:29:25
Glad the googling thing is resolved. I feel for you about the other stuff. Here for you when/if you want to talk about it.
Take care and hugs!
gg
Posted by Dinah on January 28, 2004, at 16:44:44
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried..., posted by Karen_kay on January 28, 2004, at 14:29:25
((((Karen Kay))))
:(
Whenever you're ready, we're here.
Posted by Karen_kay on January 28, 2004, at 17:49:37
In reply to Re: Oh, I'm worried... » Karen_kay, posted by Dinah on January 28, 2004, at 16:44:44
Rapid mood swings???? Maybe I really do have BPD?? Hmmmm... Maybe I should research for a few more months on the subject. No, I talked to Bubba, and his supervisor suggested switching some of his clients to more seasoned therapists, who are better "able" to handle long-term clients. And my name is "up" at this point. Phhhww.... (That's the sound you make when you are saying kiss my butt!) I told Bubba I think his supervisor's wrong, and he agrees. He doesn't think they'll try to switch me. I just told him I wouldn't continue therapy anyway, and he knows it, so what would be the point? I said that if they tried to switch me to a different therapist then I would have to start having sessions at his house, and he said that I could do his dishes. :)
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