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Posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2008, at 11:40:34
Well Feb 20 supposed to have vaginal hysterectomy, cystocele repair, rectocele repair. And for just me and since diabetes and heart disease run in family and getting older tummy tuck and lipo too. But the more I think the scarder I get as I keep hearing right or wrong the ob-gyn saying well the prolapse of uterus is stage 2 and a stage 3 where it comes out literally may never happen. I can't make decisions I'm scared. And some sites say 6 weeks for healing some say six months. Am I totally crazy to do anything at all? Thanks was afraid to post this it makes it too real and I could cancel it all and forget it all. Phillipa
Posted by ClearSkies on February 4, 2008, at 13:10:47
In reply to Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help !!!!!, posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2008, at 11:40:34
I think it's perfectly natural to be frightened of surgical procedures, even when you have the utmost trust in your doctor. I wouldn't try to fight the fear (how can you? you're already afraid) but instead acknowledge it; this is a milestone for you. repairing what time and childbearing's toll has taken.
Perhaps if you can do some mental images of the post-surgical body you'll have (where did that tummy go to?) and the worries you'll be able to leave behind as a result of the procedure, you can soothe some of your concerns.
Why don't you list some of the benefits of having the surgery here, so you can see it written down?
CS
Posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2008, at 19:46:23
In reply to Re: Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help !, posted by ClearSkies on February 4, 2008, at 13:10:47
Clear Skies not having to worry about uterus falling out as it's second degree prolapse now so half out. Being able to pee as rectocele keeps that from happening as it should, rectocele no more having to remain in a state of diarrhea to go. And since family has diabetes and heart disease the fat cells will not be in stomach area anymore where they are dangerous. May distribute somewhere else later if gain weight hopefully behind as it's flat. Love Phillipa thanks how did the show go good I hope.
Posted by stargazer2 on February 4, 2008, at 21:56:29
In reply to Re: Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help ! » ClearSkies, posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2008, at 19:46:23
Phillipa, Are there enough benefits to the procedure that make it worth having? Will the condition worsen so that you may have to go through with it another time if not now? If so, the risks then will be higher of course but ultimately it is your choice based on the level of discomfort/lack of function that currently exists.
Is the surgeon someone who is highly skilled and reputable? If so, the outcome of surgery may allow you to have some normalcy in that area and that could help with any defective feelings. The condition sounds very uncomfortable.
Despite your fears, I would try and get a sense of what this new body will be like, with the tummy tuck and all.
Fear of surgery is normal but for you so much moredifficult due to your anxiety. Can your therapist offer any suggestions to dealing with the anxiety and fear in your upcoming sessions?
Stargazer
Posted by ClearSkies on February 5, 2008, at 7:35:25
In reply to Re: Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help ! » ClearSkies, posted by Phillipa on February 4, 2008, at 19:46:23
> Love Phillipa thanks how did the show go good I hope.
We did 2 shows in a row - and they were pretty good! We're very happy about them, thanks.
CS
Posted by Phillipa on February 5, 2008, at 11:18:51
In reply to Re: Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help !, posted by stargazer2 on February 4, 2008, at 21:56:29
Stargazer I just don't know as the surgeon said well the uterus might fall out but might not in the future and he doesn't think the urinary flow tests showed a kinked urthetha. The rectocele I take magnesium nightly so almost a diarrhea stools days. My own fix. But I was terrified by by an ob-gyn in Virginia Beach who in my 40's wanted me to have it fixes as said someday trigger for some!!!! you will have to insert your finger in vagina to have a bowel movement as they will eventually merge.
I asked if I could see the obgyn on Monday any appointment and ask more questions before handing over $5000 in advance for tummy tuck. Irrational but I fear being up at and at the hospital at 5am as don't go to bed til 2 and it's a habit from l5 years of evening nursing. I haven't been cleared by anesthesia yet either. I have bad back pain and so tired and some say the weight off the stomach will ease back pain and I've wanted one the tummy tuck since 20's but am afraid and don't feel I deserve it and no the therapist is tomorrow and thinks a woman should have great self esteem she is so well groomed and slim and no anxiety problems . She thinks it would be good for my self-esteem but as yet no med to ease the anxiety. Thought my kids might be concerned if I were having surgery but they don't eontact or return any calls. Greg and I fight all the time he doesn't like me doing kids stuff on ebay and I'm losing my little enjoyment of that as turn 62 march 20 and license then no good without school. I'm a mess. I need to write you. Love Jan
Posted by stargazer2 on February 6, 2008, at 14:24:44
In reply to Re: Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help ! » stargazer2, posted by Phillipa on February 5, 2008, at 11:18:51
Phillipa, it doesn't sound urgent to do but if you have the tummy tuck wouldn't you feel better all the way around if they could repair some of those other things to get things as back to normal as possible? I think I would. One trip to the hospital, one anesthesia episode,just makes sense to consider it all together. The TT will certainly make you feel better and that is a small price to pay for something you wanted since your 20's.
If I had confidence in the surgeon and he gave me reassurance that he couldimprovethe situation greatly, I would consider it well worth it.
But it's your body so you have to want the whole enchilada too, not just the cosmetic part, which to you is the most obvious but I wouldn't want to face anything falling out in the future when anesthesia and postop recovery will be more difficult.
That's my 10 cents worth. Good luck phillipa, what will you do???? Be brave...
Stargazer
Posted by Phillipa on February 6, 2008, at 19:15:19
In reply to Re: Surgery Closer It Gets More Afraid I am Help !, posted by stargazer2 on February 6, 2008, at 14:24:44
Stargazer talked to the ob-gyn there was misunderstanding as the intern examined me first. after the head ob-gyn reviewed results of tests he said today that no need for the surgery as he has so many women he's monitored for many years with same problems and I've been monitoring them with othe ob-gyns for many years. So he said not to do the ob=gyn stuff. Just doing the tuck and therapist is all for looking better as said self-esteem would improve and I might be able to do more. So as of now that is the plan. And when stopped to pay that pump is not the only medication they will give Rx for percocet probably. Just knowing that I will have it is reassuring. I usually have a med like that and rarely take it. Also the girl said the drains stay in for up to two weeks not that does bother me, And no hospital stay and no post op appointment for l0 to 14 days. Still need to find out what anesthesia needs EKG, blood work? thanks Phillipa.
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