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Posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 0:24:12
I'm feeling really bad right now. I ate a bunch of cookies. I've eaten a lot more before and was fine, but somehow restricting all day and then eating those cookies makes me a failure in every way. I feel so bad I wish I were dead.
:-(
Posted by RealMe on August 25, 2007, at 0:47:42
In reply to Binged *trigger*, posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 0:24:12
I have to go to bed now, but I will say this. You are not a failure. I did the same sort of thing to day. Problem is I was starving before, and I know better that you don't really lose real weight this way; just shut down your metabolism so that it isn't working right. The good news is that when this happens, and you eat the cookies like you did, you don't gain weight either. Not from just one time. I ate the darn Reeses Peanut Butter Cups today, and I decided I would forgive myself for this one time becuase I needed some soothing after the intense therapy session today. So, once okay. Think of it that way, and try to sleep instead of rumminating. I am going to try myself. Take care. Tomorrow will be a new day.
RealMe (Oz)
Posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 0:51:12
In reply to Binged *trigger*, posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 0:24:12
I have to starve from now on. I have to punish myself. Hunger is good. Food is bad.
I'm so upset. I just want to be thin. I'm a failure.
Posted by Racer on August 25, 2007, at 11:46:08
In reply to Re: Binged *trigger*, posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 0:51:12
> I have to starve from now on. I have to punish myself. Hunger is good. Food is bad.
>
> I'm so upset. I just want to be thin. I'm a failure.
>
>If you try to starve yourself down, not only will you slow your metabolism -- as RealMe just pointed out -- but you'll also set yourself up for binging. It's very common -- it's almost unknown for anyone simply to starve themselves, virtually everyone will binge from restricting. It sets up a very unhealthy cycle.
Have you adjusted your meds lately? Maybe it's time to talk to your pdoc about why you get into these phases?
Posted by RealMe on August 25, 2007, at 15:19:03
In reply to Re: Binged *trigger*, posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 0:51:12
If it was just about losing weight and not punishing yourself too (I know the two go hand in hand), but if you would just allow yourself like around five or six snacks per day (high protein), then you would lose weight. You don't lose weight by starving. Been there; done that. Racer is right, you end up binging and purging too. Please don't get into that cycle. It is no fun, and you end up hating yourself even more.
RealMe
(OzLand)
Posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 20:41:38
In reply to Re: Binged *trigger* » Deneb, posted by Racer on August 25, 2007, at 11:46:08
I joined eDiets two weeks ago but I haven't been following their recommended plan of 1200-1300 kcal/day. I either go way overboard or undereat.
I emailed their nutritionists and I can get down to 94 pounds before I become underweight. My goal is 95 pounds now.
My BMI is high normal right now. My pdoc says I shouldn't waste my energy trying to fix a problem I don't have. I really truly cannot believe her when she says I'm not fat. She told me this yo-yo dieting will cause weight gain in the long run.
I think maybe I'm trying to fix something that can't be fixed by losing weight. Somehow I think I believe that once I'm thin everything will be well.
I think I've always had issues with food. When I was a child I was always underweight. My Mom would try to get me to eat and I would refuse repeatly, but once she stopped I would start crying. I think I wanted her to keep giving me attention by trying to get me to eat.
I also used to punish myself by overeating. Whenever I got angry I remember I would force myself to eat large amounts of food.
I don't know what my problem is right now. I think maybe this whole eating and weight thing has nothing to do with actual eating and weight. Maybe it's about something else.
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Posted by WaterSapphire on September 19, 2008, at 8:10:58
In reply to Re: Binged *trigger*, posted by Deneb on August 25, 2007, at 20:41:38
I know this is from August but I am going to put in my two cents if I have any cents left ;)
Deneb, everyone is right I think. If you only want to lose some weight and you are in the high bmi normal range, then maybe you could join weight watchers. I think they have weight watchers in Canada. That way once you lose the few pounds you want to lose you can go on maintenance with them and they have a core eating plan that would fit really well with your desire to do the Mediterranean diet in case you don't want to count points. It is just a thought. Please don't beat yourself up. It will only make you feel worse....
Peace
chelle
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