Posted by llrrrpp on September 12, 2006, at 10:02:45
In reply to Re:, posted by gardenergirl on September 11, 2006, at 13:09:20
Sometimes we're just not ready to take on what life dumps on us. It's okay to deflect and say no. No, I'm sorry, I just can't take care of it right now.
To say, I have to take care of myself, and part of that is to not allow others' problems to infect my heart.
To say, I am only one person, and I will do the best that I can.
To say, people make mistakes. there are all different levels of mistakes. mistakes to intentionally harm or maim with no other purpose. mistakes to make a point, to satisfy oneself, even if collateral damage occurs. mistakes that *may* harm another but serve the greater good(whatever that means). Sometimes we do things that seem like a good idea at the time, but the consequences are unexpected and we have regrets. And sometimes sh*t happens.
I don't know what your situation is. I wish there were some way to support you. Sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now. Anyways, I just wanted to let you know that pain is pain, and there's nothing sacred about it. It's vulgar and ugly and toxic. If writing about it helps you deal, that's wonderful. I wish I could say the same.
And one other gem from my advisor.
"The smartest people often don't remember where their ideas come from"
Said after the highest-profile, most reknowned person in my field delivered an address that "she had this idea that..." when the idea had been published and researched by another group.
Another example: again- high-profile reknowned person, who had this idea that "came to her in a dream" when actually it was the subject of an hour-long meeting the week before.
It's hard not to take it personally. You'd be justified in being offended. Apparently this type of error/mistake is a property of our human minds...
-ll
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