Posted by alexandra_k on August 22, 2005, at 19:06:09
In reply to Re: transference » alexandra_k, posted by greyskyeyes on August 22, 2005, at 13:12:51
yeah. you know they aren't perfect... and you know you have it bad when all the visible faults seem cute. an ideal... i'm trying to remember what my t was saying... its funny because quite often we don't really understand each other. just kind of talk past each other. but the odd thing hits home. and thats good enough for me. and i was talking to her about this and she said something that helped me a little. i know that what she said wasn't so terribly grand... but it prompted another thought in me that helped. i wish i could remember what it was... i think she said something about how we create our ideals. they are more a projection of us. i didn't like that so much. reminded me of the dog that falls in love with his own reflection... or maybe i'm mixing up my stories but anyways... it got me thinking...
> nothing wrong with falling in love with an ideal, as long as you know it's an ideal and not reality... and don't close yourself off to falling (or staying) in love with someone real...
yeah. good advice. really good advice. its just hard to know sometimes if i'm waiting for an ideal or if its just that the right person hasn't come along yet. though... i guess in my better moments i realise that its probably the latter. i don't get out much lol.
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