Posted by greyskyeyes on August 22, 2005, at 13:12:51
In reply to Re: transference, posted by alexandra_k on August 20, 2005, at 0:08:11
yeah, you know they aren't perfect and yet it seems like they must be... on a cognitive level I know he has faults and gets mad and forgets birthdays and leaves dirty dishes laying around and all that stuff "normal" people do... but all I ever saw was the good side... the side that showed such compassion and understanding and empathy (sympathy?)... felt like such a betrayal as I do love my husband so much but for a time he just couldn't measure up... luckily it's true the old cliche about time healing all wounds, though I still think about him every once in a while... smile and sigh... but the picture is fading... probably a good thing though...
nothing wrong with falling in love with an ideal, as long as you know it's an ideal and not reality... and don't close yourself off to falling (or staying) in love with someone real...
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