Posted by Deneb on September 12, 2017, at 15:51:42
In reply to Hard time attracting women...anyone?, posted by Jay_OriginalOne on July 30, 2017, at 10:54:18
Good looks certainly help, but I don't think that it's as important as the media makes it appear sometimes. It certainly wasn't much of a consideration in my life, or my fiance's life.
I think that there is nearly always someone who is a good enough fit for anyone who is interested in relationships. There are people out there who don't care if you live at home, have a car, or a job, or anything else you might think would be a barrier.
In fact, sometimes it's these "negatives" that attract someone.
For me, it was more important to find someone in the same life stage as me than someone who was "successful" in the traditional sense. Since I'm very behind in life and career success compared to others my age, naturally the people I was attracted to were not as "successful" according to society.
What attracts me the most are sensitive men, men who don't anger quickly, men who are humble, reliable, trustworthy, men with good loving friends and family, and men who understand my introverted ways.
I'm sure that there are women out there who are attracted to the opposite traits. People are weird, different, and irrational. I think it's wonderful.
The trick of course is finding these people.
I don't know about other people, but I didn't have success with online dating. Making friends first, then finding a partner from the pool of friends organically through a shared interest in an activity was what worked for me.
Neither my fiance or I liked the idea of shopping for love like you would at the grocery store, picking and discarding people based on surface impressions. It just didn't seem right to us to treat people like that.
I didn't read any of the other posts, so I hope my post is relevant. I wish you luck!
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