Posted by baseball55 on July 30, 2017, at 18:15:31
In reply to Hard time attracting women...anyone?, posted by Jay_OriginalOne on July 30, 2017, at 10:54:18
I expect by no drama, people mean no crazy tantrums, fights, suicide attempts, etc. There are people who "create" drama - or maybe chaos is a better word - in relationships. People with substance abuse problems (stealing money, overdosing, flying into rages), BPD (flying into rages, unreasonable jealousy, etc.), other personality disorders. My mother-in-law had what I like to call (but which the DSM no longer cites) histrionic personality disorder - all she did was create drama, manipulate people, cry, throw tantrums, endless self-pity and overall craziness. So unless you are like this, then you can honestly call yourself drama-free.
The other issue though is more complicated. I've never done internet dating sites, but it seems like people can automatically reject you based on specified criteria - no job, no. Takes meds, no.
Maybe a better way to meet women is to do some kind of volunteer or community projects where people get to know you first as you, rather than as a check-list.
But I was married for 37 years and am now happily single. I've never really been in the dating game in my life. So what do I know?
Good luck to you. Hope other people have constructive suggestions.
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