Posted by SLS on August 3, 2017, at 1:04:02
In reply to Re: Hard time attracting women...anyone? » Jay_OriginalOne, posted by Tabitha on August 2, 2017, at 19:47:13
GREAT ADVICE!
I'll take it.
- Scott
--------------------------------------------------> Hi Jay,
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> Just some thoughts coming from my own experience as a person who found a great partner despite a lifetime of sub-par social/romantic skills and a market value that dropped sharply on losing that all-important female youth factor:
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> 1. Don't be discouraged by what happens on dating sites or singles events. Those setups are all about mainstream market value. Think of yourself as more of a niche product. You have to work harder to find your market.
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> 2. Special interest groups are a good resource. It's good to be in a group where the focus is on that fun thing you're all obsessed with. In that situation, people are less likely to be sizing each other up based on socio-economic status or social adroitness.
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> 3. It can be good to re-kindle relationships with people from the past (neighbors, school, work) that you got on well with. They're less likely to be judging you solely based on current situation.
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> Finally, consider whether your own selection criteria might be making things harder for you. You want to be looking mainly for someone that has (1) good character and (2) really wants to be with you. Don't waste energy pursuing anyone who's lacking in either of those areas.Some see things as they are and ask why.
I dream of things that never were and ask why not.- George Bernard Shaw
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