Posted by baseball55 on April 15, 2015, at 19:46:54
In reply to Re: procrastinator, posted by rjlockhart37 on April 12, 2015, at 21:17:17
> i am seeing a counselor right now but i havent seen him in a while.....try to figure this, groups at the college i go too...maybe i get in.....work from there.....i am just so lost.....and seems everything is doom gloom, snap out of it.....
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No, RJ. Don't snap out of it. If we could snap out of these things at will, we would. But we can't. The key is to ask for help. But to ask for help, you have to be willing to accept help. You tend to say things like this - okay, I will get myself together, I just have to snap out of it, change everything, etc. As if this were all in your control.Think about it, RJ. If it were in your control, would you still be fighting distress and confusion and living at home and writing to babble after 10 years. It's not in your control. Seek help. Get counseling. Ask for help from babble. Ask friends for help with things you need - rides, studying, companionship, advice, whatever.
Learn the humility to accept help and not feel that you have to say - ok, I can do it myself. You ask for help then, when given help here on babble, you say - thanks, I'll take care of it myself. This makes people you ask feel useless and used and leaves you without the help you need and crave.
Ask for help and humbly accept help that's given. The key to happiness.
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