Posted by twinleaf on October 25, 2010, at 18:20:18
In reply to thank you Deneb, posted by twinleaf on October 25, 2010, at 17:44:45
And we did it without any PBCs, which might have irritated us even further. Now I feel that we are on more solid ground together, and that it will be easier for us to resolve our differences, should any arise in the future. If I had gotten a PBC or a block for "pressuring", I would have felt angry and unfairly treated. I would be so upset that my caring intentions were not recognized and there would not be anyone to work things out with. If Deneb had gotten one for sounding angry, she would just have felt even angrier and more misunderstood, with no-one to work things out with.
If someone is blocked, they have to sit, for periods as long as a year, without resolving their feelings. How much better to give everyone a chance to settle things in a quick and psychologically healthy way- a way that promotes growth.
poster:twinleaf
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