Posted by Cass on March 21, 2009, at 19:06:59
In reply to Re: Facilitation » Cass, posted by Kath on March 21, 2009, at 15:32:33
>>Which made me realize that for HER - to TELL about something
>>is to ASK for advice!!! Yikes.Thanks, Kath. Your post is really interesting. In the past, I've also come to the realization that some people can misinterpret. I'll talk about an issue in my life, and they assume I'm doing it to get their opinion, when in reality, I was not asking their advice at all. They simply interpret it that way. That can be a frustrating issue when you're getting to know someone because you can't know if they are one of those people who assumes you're asking for advice or not. I guess I just need to state it right up front.
One of the group members who interrupts me a lot is really, really co-dependent from what I can tell. She's always saying how she "cares too much" and wants to fix other people's problems. I can tell she thinks highly of this quality. But to me, I see that she is interrupting me and giving me unsolicited advice, basically being rude. The way I see it, her behavior seems very disrespectful, but she thinks she's being caring. I get the feeling she would devour me if I let her. So I'm giving myself credit for not letting her. And when a counselor asks her direct questions about her feelings, she's all over the place. It's like she simply cannot give a direct answer. She starts talking about other people and situations. The counselor has to be very persistent and still doesn't get an answer out of her.
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