Posted by Kath on March 21, 2009, at 15:44:54
In reply to Re: Facilitation » Cass, posted by obsidian on March 20, 2009, at 22:45:41
We sit in a circle. We can ask the leader ahead of time for 'work' - as in "I'd like work today".
So for ex, she'll say, "So Kath asked for work today."
Then I talk - pretend I say "I am really angry at --- but am afraid to tell them."
She knows I am willing & able to go really DEEP, so she'll sometimes tell me to close my eyes & imagine things, etc. One time regarding anger, she said close my eyes & feel where the anger was in my body. It went on & the anger eventually turned into a huge volcanoe. It was a very good session. When she finally said open my eyes, she pointed out that I had touched this huge, very powerful anger & I was still alive & safe & sitting here in the circle.
There might be more talking or not.
THEN, she asks everyone - "Is there anyone who can relate?" One by one, people will tell how they relate in THEIR life. They are not allowed to give advice & I am not allowed to comment. She says that doing group therapy in this way - everyone can benefit from everybody else's 'work'.I find it feels really safe for me because I know that nobody will be giving me advice or talking AT me. They might say, "Kath, I can really relate, because I was always afraid to tell my Mom such & such."
When everyone has spoken who wants to, we go on to the next person's 'work'.
The leader is tremendously skilled. And the structure makes it very safe for me. It also prevents people from going on & on. There are a couple of people who tend towards that, but the leader will nudge them back on track with "So Adam, how do you relate to what Kath was saying? In your life?"
Hope this helps sid. Feel free to ask me more if ya like.
luv, Kath
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