Posted by Racer on November 8, 2008, at 21:26:55
In reply to Re: I'm scared, posted by Deneb on November 8, 2008, at 18:27:38
> I feel bad. I want to die or something. :-(
Deneb, isn't there something in between those two? Do you really "want to die?" Or do you want something else? Maybe to be comforted? To feel better? To have a French Vanilla milkshake? (Oh, wait -- that's me...) You're far past the stage you were in before -- you know you don't *really* want to die. And you even know you know how to express that better now...>
> I'm upset.Ah, yes -- there it is! Much better, bright star. You are upset.
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> Help.
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>Um, I bet you don't *reallY* want help from me, right? lol I'm not great with warm fuzzies, am I? Oh, well, let me try to offer some help, shall I?
Deneb, you've got a lot of insight into yourself now -- and you've said in this thread that you know you're influenced by others. Others have reacted to the idea of research with fear, with anxiety, with anger -- and that's communicated itself to you.
But then again -- some people have reacted to this with excitement: wow, lots of new people to "get to know," lots of new stories! Some have reacted by saying, "Gee, based on the rules of research, Dr Bob can't give us all the details -- that would skew the study. We're not participants, so the new people won't be trying to trick us in any way. He promised he'd tell us what he could when the study was over, so I guess I'll find out then." Here's my question for you to ponder, while you're pouring forth your light on us all: why are you more influenced by those who are upset, rather than by those who are excited? Can you find a reason for that?
As for change, well -- Honey, if you ain't good at change, I got some way bad news for you: you've changed tremendously in the past few years. I'll bet you find life a lot more pleasant because of it, too, don't you? This is just another opportunity to challenge yourself.
And Deneb? I am afraid of the unknown, too. I am not comfortable with change, either. And you know what? Life is not static, life is all about change. (Unless you give yourself a good coat of shellac.) I try to remind myself, "This is good for me. It builds character." And then I laugh, because that's just such a cliche. ;-)
Best to you, Deneb. Just remember -- Deneb is the brightest star in the sky.
poster:Racer
thread:861559
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