Posted by Jay_Bravest_Face on January 25, 2008, at 23:55:25 [reposted on January 26, 2008, at 7:09:53 | original URL]
In reply to Can anybody understand me on this? Ruining my life, posted by becksFLA on January 24, 2008, at 14:15:57
> This has been a problem that has plagued me basically since my anxiety/depression hit about 5 years ago. I've been trying to connect the two but I don't know what the problem is. It has to do with relationships, particularly with girls, or lack thereof. First thing's first, it doesn't matter but should show how much of a problem it really is. I'm a handsome guy, very imposing 6'7", yet extremely genuine, OVERLY sensitive (perhaps b/c of the anxiety/depression), and I deeply care what everybody thinks of me, good and ESPECIALLY bad. If somebody doesnt like me, people tell me to blow it off, and I know I should, but it affects me for a LONG time....increasing my depression, making me think how sad it is that they don't like me, because I have nothing but good intentions for everybody. I really haven't had a steady girlfriend for years now. I've had chances, but they always go out the window after the first date. I think it may be because I get so excited I scare them off? I definitly think way too much into things, could be another reason. I have no clue though. Just wondering if anybody else that suffers from these disorders also has the same relationship problems and can help me relate. (In the past before I had anxiety/depression I had so many incredible friends...not even close to an issue.
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>Well, just to let you know, you are FAR from alone. I know..it's not fun, at all. It down-right hurts. My depression and anxiety have REALLY been messing me from getting back into a 'steady' relationship with a woman for almost 10 years now. I had a bad enough time before psych. treatment with relationships! I've always been kinda the soft/heart-on-sleeve nice guy, and well, I've found women just don't find that very attractive. (Or I guess..**SOME** women). What is weird though is that I've also often kept my pride, and was able to keep myself together as a fairly strong, intelligent person. Still, I've never been 'perfect' enough. (Just ask all my ex's..lol.) Yes, there where a couple of times where I was clearly at fault, I'd be the first to admit. (Rushed in too fast, etc.) But it seemed to often come down to me, and "me" having to change something about "me". "Oh...if you where just like this...or that...or this...etc.."
In your case, you should take heart in your height, as that is a major attraction point with women. I don't know how old you are, but I find many (No..not all...) women in my age range, late-30's-early 40's...think they 'deserve' Tom Cruise's twin.lol Okay, now I sound really cynical and am likely to be ambushed with custard pie. Maybe I am just looking in the wrong places?
I dunno. Oh ya, and the same goes for me and past 'friends' too. Now-a-days...I am a pretty lonely guy. :( (I know...boo-hoo...heh..)Best,
Jay
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