Posted by Kath on February 2, 2007, at 18:00:42
In reply to Re: Does it never end?? Son confided in me today.... » Kath, posted by happykat on February 2, 2007, at 3:39:19
He & GF have been here except for a 3-hour visit to a friend's Tuesday night.
Today they've gone to the friend's where they are going to be staying. They're staying overnight & I'm hoping it goes well, because if it does, I'll be suggesting that they shift to staying there.
That'd been the original plan & I had said that I wanted him here for a few days.
Funny thing is that since I've found out about his GF's use, that has upset me almost more than my son's situation. The friend whose house they're going to be staying at told me today (when I briefly spoke with him privately, after they'd gone into the house) that GF had been using meth for 2 months & my son only learned of it while he was in the hospital. So she'd been using befoe, but he didn't know.
I find it depressing that she looks so haggard & today the person who she uses meth with - or one of them - phoned (he's a friend of my son's also) & she was all laughing & animated on the phone & I felt really angry inside & sort of disgusted!!
Son's case worker with the program at Mental Health Association met with hubby & I this morning. It was a very supportive meeting. She emphasized that his 'team' is totally there to support his family also, in whatever way we want. So it's good because I know I can email her, phone her (or any of them - social worker, nurse) if I have any questions, concerns, etc.
It felt really good to hear that.She also was able to disperse some of my concerns & even just talking about how I was feeling helped.
I said that I feel that when my son leaves our home, it'll be like sending someone out into the huge ocean on a raft. That's sorta how it feels to me. But she helped me realize that that's probably not at all how it feels to him, in that he's probably quite content to sleep alot right now & not have many things that he HAS to do.
So the good thing is that hubby & I have the house to ourselves tonight. It feels very different even though we haven't been seeing son & GF upstairs much. Just knowing that they're not here feels good!!!!!!
:-) Kath
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