Posted by Kath on February 1, 2007, at 15:07:27
In reply to Re: Does it never end?? Son confided in me today. » Kath, posted by Declan on February 1, 2007, at 1:29:16
Thx Declan,
My doctor suggested that I 'pass it by' my son first & I did that this morning, then did talk with her.
I told her I loved her & said how I'd been shocked at the airport at how tired & haggard she looked, & am concerned about her; that they've both slept for 3 days basically etc....that I know they've both been through a very rough time & that I want her to know that I'm here for her & that they can talk with me about anything.
The piece that didn't get said was the talking as if 'it' were out in the open. I think that's a good idea & I think that when I feel comfortable about it, I will say something to her & include that part.
I think it's even not a bad thing to do it in 2 stages. Sometimes I tend to think I have to say things JUST RIGHT....and talk about everything at once.
We had the initial meeting today. Case worker & nurse from the Mental Health Association came to our house, which was a nice relaxed way of doing it. They asked my son all kinds of questions about his past & how things led up to where he's at now, etc. He was amazingly open & forthcoming about things.
The worker said they're available for supporting the family also, so hubby & I have an appointment with her tomorrow morning - once again at our home. She is so nice - she even said, 'want me to pick you up a tea or coffee on my way?' It works out well because hubby is off this week from his gallbladder surgery. He's doing great - today he didn't even have to take a Tylenol 3 until 3:30!! He brought home his work computer & has been doing some work here. He's driven very short distances 2 times & is really doing quite well. He just came back from getting us a movie, which we're going to watch shortly!!
The one thing that hubby & are aren't happy about, but it isn't a surprise is:
In response to case worker's question, he says he's doing well about not using drugs & doesn't think he needs to set anything in place regarding the program that had been looked into.
I didn't say anything at the time; will be talking with cw tomorrow about it. He needs to deal with the underlying problems; he needs to have help healing certain things inside himself & he needs to learn new ways of dealing with life's stresses, etc.
I'm not too upset at this point, because he's in no shape to do much of anything right now. The nurse who came said that it's very normal to have an amazing amount of tiredness after having a psychotic episode. My son is really tired; seems really zonked & drugged. So it isn't as if he's in shape to do a treatment program right now, however, since there is a waiting period, he needs to be set up on the waiting list.
Thanks everyone for your support. It helps me get through all this!
hugs, Kath
PS Declan - how are things in your life. I don't go to the other boards much, so am not sure if you post much there but you always seem to be around to support others. I wonder how things are for you?
luv, Kath
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